Couldn't have put it better myself...

The very brightest candle of all has been extinguished
Smothered by those who could not bear to face reality
Every beat of your heart tore the lies all apart
Made foundations quiver
Every wave in the lake caused the porcelain to break
And I shiver...
The leftover tallow just doesn’t contain
All the right answers
Under a sea of dust lies a vast wealth of wisdom
And untouched snow turns red
Innocence dies
This black page in history is not colourfast, will stain the next
All that remains is just a feint of what was meant to be
This black page in history is not colourfast, will stain the next
And nothing seems in life, in dreams like what was meant to be

Not going to happen...

Well tonight it is supposed to end - Clare is going to meet Jon and tell him it's over. But is she?
You see, it all starts out clear and directed at the start of the day, and then her mind fades and she starts to doubt herself, culminating in her carrying on this spiral of illusion and malcontent. No wonder her chakras are blocked. All this negative spiralling energy is dragging her further into the depths.
I don't understand how she can continue to be like this - it is obvious to her how she is feeling and also now she is complaining of feeling like a dirty person, and she feels unclean and hideous, but has continued to do the things that make her feel this way.
Tonight is her one chance to stop all that. I have a feeling this is her last chance before entering the road that has no exit. No place to do a u-turn. Once in this alley way she has to deal with the consequences.
I have no real idea if she will see it through. Something inside me tells me that the intent to end this is fading as the day draws on, and she will make compromises and not go through with it. It will most likely be her downfall and ultimately the end of our friendship. She is being poisoned, I can feel it in my stomach, the disease, the dirt, the toxic sludge restricting her spirituality. I feel the presence of this growing as the day goes on. She will get ready tonight and make herself look beautiful for him, and then who knows what happens. I know what happened the other night.
Her final test has arrived. Make or break time. The truth is in her heart, but whether it gets to her head before the toxicity takes her, I cannot say.
Please let the guiding lights show Clare how to be true to herself and rescue her from her spiral of torment and the grip of this darkness. Let the true sound of love break through her blindness and the great natural law of the universe influence her heart and open her eyes.
I value Clare as a person and a friend, my closest friend. I am not ready to lose her, and I pray to all the spirits to assist her tonight to be free of her restrictions and be guided by the truth.

Prediction...

Ok, this is getting so boring now - Clare left Jon as he has sick perversions and takes drugs and they have very little in common. She cried all the time, they didn't speak and guess what? She's going back to him. Absolutely insane. Problem is it is going to end in tragedy.

She is going to meet him tonight and here is what will happen.

He has spent hours getting ready, as she has too. They will get caught up in the atmosphere of the pub, he will tell her he has been wrong all along and he is sorry. He has destroyed the tapes, he loves her, he will change/give up drugs etc. yadda yadda yadda. She will say she has been too hasty, been in a bad mood la la la... and they will "give it another go".

My spirit guide has warned me about what happens in the end and how I need to be the strongest person on earth when it happens. I'm shitting myself to be honest. Look at the component parts. Clare is unhinged, she swings her moods from one extreme to the other and Jon isn't in control of his mental state either. There are drugs involved and perversions that are truly sick, and it's only heading one way.
I felt better this week as Clare seemed to be putting her life together and moving forward. It is all about to grind to a halt again. She misses Jon, or what she hoped Jon is rather than the reality. She was warned about him time and time again by those who know what he is capable of. Well this time she is going to be hurt, and not just emotionally. I am just so terrified that I cannot help her when it happens.

She will come in tonight all happy and bright having worked it all out, and think she got him all wrong before, forgetting all the truth that really happened and just dwelling on the "days out" that were "really nice". Clutching fog as it is known.
I can see where this is heading and I wonder whether our friendship can survive it. I doubt it to be honest. there will be a choice forced on her one day "him or me" as "he loves her" so why does she need me? She will be off, back into the same routine as before - of course not at first! We are back in "men don't fart for a month" territory, but given time it will, and she will have pushed me out by then. It's not pretty and it's only going to get worse.

I am thinking like a coward right now. I don't want to be here to see it all fall down in the way it will as I don't want to have to deal with the pieces. I suppose if I run away back to Stoke and find out later what happened I will never live with myself and regret not being here to deal with it. I just wish it wasn't going to happen. I guess there's still time to change the course of life, but only the people involved can do that - I keep trying to force Clare's hand through my terror at what is to come, but that only pushes her to do the opposite and go further in.
Why was I given this burden to deal with? I know this is going to sound funny, but I feel like Frodo Baggins having been given the impossible task to deal with, and he did get there, despite being a small character with a big heart, but there were losses on the way, and I can't bear that thought.

There is still time to change, not much, but there is time - I will pray all I can for the truth to come out in time.

The long road back to well-being...

Well, what a week - again!
The saga continues, or hopefully for Clare's mental health, the saga ends. She did come round that night and had a meal and watched a DVD. So maybe she is showing signs of inner strength at last. The stunner was what happened the next day.
Clare went over to the cottage while Vernon was out at work. In a clothing drawer she found some video tapes that had been hidden there. On one of the tapes was the previous "K" girlfriend having sex. Why would you keep such a thing when you are with someone else? What are tapes for? They are for watching of course, and sex tapes are for pleasuring yourself with. The fact that this tape had not been destroyed speaks volumes. The fact that it had been brought to Lympsham speaks even louder! Anyone who did not want to see the tape again would have destroyed it instantly, but he didn't - he kept it, and not only that, he took it to a home where it was only supposed to be him and Clare. It is disgusting, sordid and above all dishonest. But that's only part of the story. The other part involves a song, a song that contains the lyrics:
"you let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
you let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you
I want to fuck you like an animal
I want to feel you from the inside
I want to fuck you like an animal
help me tear down my reason, help me its' your sex I can smell"

Nice eh? Now imagine putting this song on and then proceeding to masturbate over it as it plays - sordid enough yet? No? OK, now just to add the icing on the cake, video yourself doing this and keep the video with you when you move in with your "LOVE" and the person you share a home with. Nice.

Almost enough to appear on a sex offenders register maybe. But fancy doing it in the first place! What does this say about you? Look at the lyrics! Sweet Jesus, this is insane!

Needless to say, Clare got out of there as fast as she could. Her instincts were spot on.
She has moved back here with me - just for the short term until she can find somewhere else and put her broken life back together and move on.
Well, that was the idea anyway...

Vernon has mental issues - he is insecure, but above all only ever considers his own feelings. He wrote Clare a letter and almost every line in this "heartfelt" letter contained the words "I want". At no point did it ever mention Clare's feelings and what she needs or wants to do - it only dealt with how this was affecting him. This was a letter he was supposed to have been up all night writing, so how did he manage to not think of Clare and her needs during the entire night? Because it has never been about what Clare wants - yet again we go back to the young King Arthur story.
So, the next installment was Clare going to meet him in the pub because she felt sorry for him - the reason she goes back to him time and time again. It's tragic to be with someone through sympathy, and what does it say about the person who is so clingy and needy? Weakness is a most unattractive quality.
So after 2 hours in a pub and hardly a word uttered to Clare she left thinking "what's the point?" and indeed what was the point? In a whole night's letter writing and 2 hours in the pub, Clare's feelings were not considered other than the "well you made your mind up already" negativity. So she left again and was more fed up.
Unfortunately Clare cannot seperate her base instincts of physical lust from the common sense of knowing she is being with someone totally wrong for her - plus the fact she is incredibly bad for him! I doubt either of them have ever been so miserable since getting together. Yeah, they have days out and enjoy that, but I really enjoyed going to the first wedding with David Timms but I wouldn't shag him!
So Clare goes over to check if he is alright, and of course sleeps with him. Well, had sex anyway. Straight after, she wanted to leave - having realised that this is all the "relationship" ever was - just physical lust, and her insecurity about being unable to find anyone else physically suitable leads her straight back to him. So she quickly left and came back home to Winscombe having stated to him that the sex never changed anything.
This is how my relationship with Clare was different - I made love to Clare, I don't believe we ever had sex. It was because I loved her that it was enjoyable. There was nothing better than lying with her afterwards and having a cuddle and holding her and telling her how much I loved her. The act was a confirmation of how much she meant to me, and how giving myself to her in that way showed her that I was committed and vulnerable to her. I would never and have never felt like getting up and leaving straight away. I loved Clare, she doesn't love Vernon.
He was talkative after the event, of course. He had planned it all in advance - the heating was on for a start! Even when Clare was freezing cold and unable to sleep he never sorted it out, she was upset, crying, cold, going outside, not sleeping and in a right state with panic and all sorts, but always in the cold. When sex is a posibility, on goes the heating! He must have had a few of his fake manhood pills to make sure he didn't disappoint too, plus plenty of other chemicals no doubt - he even admitted to taking something, probably hash, but to be honest with his ability to lie and the way he talked when he can't normally, it might have been something else. Let's not forget too what it is like to be a man! A conquest is a huge ego boost and the endorphins give you a false confidence and free tongue, so it's no wonder with the cocktail of chemicals, impotence aids and everything else that he could start to chat like a "normal" person.
This had well and truely worn off the next day however. Clare texted him to see if he was alright, and as there was no reply sent more and more urgent messages for him to contact her. Except he didn't bother - I told Clare he was letting her stew for dumping him, but she insisted that he always checks his phone, it's always with him and that something might have happened to him. So she worried all night and into the morning until eventually calling him. Vernon wakes up very early in the morning, so he must have looked at his phone when he woke up to get the time at least, or to check messages at least. But he didn't answer. Clare phoned him in a panic, thinking he might have done something to himself, but he hadn't - instead she got the familiar dead voice and and excuse that he just hadn't checked his phone. So he got up and didn't look at his phone at all until she rang him, even though he was on his way out to work? Doesn't add up to me - especially with Clare's insistance that he always has his phone on him.

So where does Clare go from here? Well for now she has taken Foxy to her mum's house and is having a natter over there - I don't know if she will tell her mum much about what has happened - it's too seedy to give any of the details really, but her mum needs to know she is safe at least.

It hurts me to see Clare go on making mistakes, and sometimes I lose my cool and try and show her how she is further damaging herself and her prospects of a happy life. There is no way she wants to be in a relationship with Vernon, but she cannot help her feelings of guilt, her feelings of lust, and her feelings of not wanting to upset him. But giving in to someone who is weak because you feel sorry for them, lusting over a physical appearance and feeling guilty are no reasons to be with anyone.

A person doesn't just wake up one morning and decide to break up. The tension builds over time. A person usually tries to "bear" with an ex before the breakup finally happens.
We already know the ways of trying to trap a person into being with you - things like:
What about the time we...
Think about my side for a moment...
This isn't fair...
I can't live without you...
Think about all the good times we had together...
And so on.
My wonderful book contains one golden rule on dating - "If you ignore reality, sooner or later, you are going to get hurt!"

Here's more from the book...
Think of ignoring the truth as trying to defy gravity by jumping out of a window. You can jump out of the 2nd floor and hurt your ankle, or you could ignore this and move on further up to the 3rd floor and jump there. The pain you are experiencing should show you that gravity exists! If you are really blind, then you might end up climbing all the way to the 81st floor before you jump, you might even believe you can fly on the way down, but you just wait for the "SPLAT!"
Would you rather jump now from the 2nd floor or keep it going until the 81st floor before you find out what the reality is? Think about it...
The feeling sorry for yourself and wallowing in self pity is a classic manipulation - Why do people get their own way with you? Because they can! They know they can too! So if crying and feeling like the world has ended and there's no point gets you to come back then guess what? They are ALWAYS going to sound like that! It is you being conditioned by their actions. And they will always be like this because they know it works to get you back - you cannot complain that your partner is weak and pathetic and whiny when it is you who is making them that way by going back to them when they act like it!
Another golden rule for a RELATIONSHIP is noting the ability to communicate.
Can you talk face to face (without alcohol, drugs or post sex?)
Do you run out of things to say and have awkward silences?
Do you blame eachother for acting in a negative way that is wrong to you?
Do you ignore the other's feelings in the interest of your own?
Do you think your partner "should know" how you feel?
Do you get angry and frustrated by the inability to communicate?
If you answer yes to any of these questions you have no relationship.

CHARACTER is another vital part of any relationship - again, ask yourself:

Is your partner honest with you or do they conceal things?
Do they trust you?
Are they mature?
Are they mentally/psychologically stable?
Do you share life plans and interests?
Do you share financial outlooks? Can you live with someone who gets into debt easily?
Is your partner clean (of alcohol, drugs, gambling, sexual addictions,etc.)?

Again, if you answer no to any of these your relationship will NEVER hold together despite how much you fight it.

Honesty is vital - if you cannot tell your partner EVERYTHING then you will never be truly close. Lots of people make the mistake of thinking they can help their partner change. It never works. The person will either resist or in the worst case they will bring you down to their level of being - hiding things, feeling insecure, being down and depressed.
Understand you cannot fix or change a person - they will need professional help. They need to understand that they need to work on managing their problems and having a healthy life BEFORE they can have a relationship. Take a look at your partner - do they have a history of failed relationships because of this? How long is the list? What does this tell you about them?
YOU CANNOT HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP UNTIL YOU HAVE A HEALTHY LIFE. Over time, anger and depression will eventually get to you and become a drag on your OWN physical and mental well-being.

Do people tell you that your partner is no good for you? Don't forget third party opinions are more objective that your own.
Are you living a balanced and healthy life being with your partner? Work on your own life first! You'll thank me in 10 years!
Are you trying to change your partner and "help" them become better? I'm sorry, but if you are constantly trying to change yourself for your partner or the other way around then you are JUST NOT THE RIGHT PERSON for them.

You must never depend on one person - You must be able to live your life happily as a single BEFORE you get into a relationship. After all, how can you take care of another person if you cannot take care of yourself?
Never cling to a person because you are afraid of being alone - Because of your only intention of getting into a relationship is to get someone to share your life with, then you are going to be WAY too needy and WAY too desperate - qualities that members of the opposite sex find most unattractive.
Learn to live alone, outside a relationship. Enjoy freedom AND solitude. Grow a backbone and make decisions for yourself. Learn to LOVE YOURSELF and gain confidence as an INDIVIDUAL.



I think this book is the main reason I have my sanity - In those dark moments where desperation took over and I couldn't cope unless I got back together with Clare, I read it through and the weight dropped off my head each time.
Breakups are hard - really hard. The feelings they create screw our minds up totally and make us do rash things - plenty of those have happened already. And in those moments of desperation we forget all of the things that caused the break up. But people don't break up in one action - it is after a realisation over time that people split - there is not one thing that happens to break you apart but the sum total of a million things, all the things that show you that you are with the wrong person. Fight against that and you will be in a constant spiral of hurt and pain and breaking up and getting back together, and unhappiness.

I learned all this, and it hurt, it hurt too much sometimes, but now I am well-adjusted and content, Clare is my friend and always will be, and the truth will always be the backbone of my life.

What a week!

Well, where do we start...? We start with a prediction actually - the rest of the story later, but I predict Clare will not come around tonight as she said she wanted to, she will give in to the ridiculous emotional cripple she lives with and make up with him. Ok rant over.
Working in reverse order - Clare came over this morning, well actually very early - I was out with the dog and eventually met up with her on the Strawberry Line - she was in tears. Jon had dumped her! He had grown tired of her and her little ways and agreed with her that they had nothing in common. Then he texted her back in an over-friendly way, and later on that morning he asked her to come back so they could talk! Yes, we can all see where this is going can't we dears? I had arranged to get a DVD and a Chinese to take her mind off it, and she REALLY wanted to do that - as opposed to watch Jon drink a couple of bottles of wine and sit there in silence all night. I reckon she won't come though - she gives in to him so easily - maybe that's why she left me, because I am a real man and have strength, and there's something about a pathetic weak-willed man that appeals to her. God knows. And so her living hell continues...

Jayne came round at the weekend - I think I should leave most of the details out! She was all over me like a rash, and we did stuff I have never experienced before! I lost count at the number of times we had sex, although I think it was 6 in total, and I eventually got to sleep at 4am. Then I woke up to take the dog out and when I got back I was summoned back to bed to carry on! My bits are exhausted! Very strange positions I ended up in too! Rather pleasant though I have to say. It was nice to feel sexy again. To have someone make "phwoar!" noises when you take your shirt off. To be appreciated. To be valued and most of all made to feel attractive. She couldn't fake that bit - well not 6 times anyway! lol. Weird to be doing adventurous stuff without it being my idea - very odd - like Christmas and birthdays rolled into one! The only real down side is the fact she screams like a banshee when she cums! And not only that she shouts all manner of "encouragement" at the same time. I think next door must have thought there was an orgy going on! Maybe there was! There was probably a very stunned queue in the kebab shop as well. lol
Might see her again - she lives in Frome so it's tricky, so driving might be even more of a priority. I think we both gave eachother a lot of self-esteem back again. She had been dumped and deceived too and so we both felt a sense of an ego boost. Don't want sex for ages now - in case my bits fall off!


The week at mum's was OK. Abi's party was great and everyone was so nice to me - oddly they were nice before they knew what had happened, but I guess that's Stoke people - always friendly even if the place is a cack hole!
I had exercised a lot that week and with my boots on I swear I had grown - I was towering over Louise, who I always remembered being quite a lot taller than me. Felt a bit crap being single in amongst so many couples, and cried like a baby for a few minutes when I got into bed that night - probably alcohol adding to it I guess, but it is difficult being alone in some situations.

Mum's birthday went well and all her old friends came around - she was blown away by the fact we had got her a telly. She was channel hopping all night saying "I can't get over how good the picture is!" over and over again.

Feeling like another crossroads is forming in front of me. I am determined to keep steaming ahead, and the passport is on its way next! Promised mum a trip to Dublin for Christmas. Not phoned up about the driving lessons yet - I got sidetracked a bit with all the emails I have ploughed through. Can't believe I had 78 emails when I got back. I supposed it is about 9 per day.
I think I might have to try and meet a load more women. It's exciting to meet new people and I don't need male friends - they are dull and only care about macho crap - much rather talk about spiritual things and nature and all that - although Jayne was chatting for ages about how Harry Redknapp is a rubbish manager, and playing 3 at the back never works?!!? A women who knows about football and shags for Britain?! Anyway...
I feel sad about Clare. I thought she was going to be free (again!) today. But I think she will carry on like this for ages - poor girl hasn't slept for weeks. I put her to bed here for an hour or two this morning and rubbed some creme on her face and eyes. She slept soundly. She'll end up very ill if she stays with Jon any longer. He's not right in the head anyway, but he is so bad for her. They have NOTHING in common - nothing that matters anyway. I can go to Longleat with Gran and have a lovely day, it doesn't mean the fact that I enjoyed it means I want to marry her! He is a drug using, smoking, emotionally repressed, manipulative, weak, impotent (appparently!), debt-ridden, inanimate loser. You only have to look at Clare to see who she is with. Clare is drained, unhappy, going nowhere, directionless, depressed, broke, and thoroughly miserable. It's good to know Jon is taking good care of her....

I guess I am now hanging around for a few hours waiting for a text to say "I'm not coming, we have worked things out".
I know what you are thinking - why are you even bothering? Well yeah - fair comment, except I care about Clare and I can't stand seeing my best friend have her life ruined because of a selfish and manipulative loser. I want Clare to be on her own for a while - to look at herself and her life and have time to sort it out. I don't even want to get back with her. She was saying this morning how I shouldn't have any hope of us being a couple again and I didn't really want to say "That's the last thing I want!" Clare is bad for me - we can't be a couple, not with her as she is. I don't want to be with Clare like that. I'm not even concerned about having a relationship at the moment - I have given so much to the last one, I need to recharge and learn to trust again. I don't like how Clare dismisses the future like it is set in stone - only the past is set in stone, the future is ours to carve out.
All I can do is be there for her, she will make her own mistakes, over and over again. I am worried about Jon. He may well get to the stage of aggression if this control doesn't stop. There's so much he hides from Clare, God knows what he is capable of.

Ah well, rant over - I hope Clare finds her peace and moves on to find someone special to be with. Someone who deserves her and someone who will be honest and true and respect her. This whole thing is so ugly and Clare is starting to disappear as a person. If she doesn't leave him she will die and become a nothing. Just a blank zombie living a life she has to just put up with. God, there is so much more to life - I can tell you from first-hand experience!

First Post and the Last Post...

Well this is the last post for a while - going up to Stoke so dear diary I must leave you in silence for a while.
I've kicked myself up the arse again after feeling down and found another gear, and was helped by the wonderful news the post lady brought - the driving licence!!! YAY! I ran round the house like a fool for a few minutes and was punching the air so hard my arms hurt. I was convinced there was going to be a delay or some problem with my ID after changing my name, but no, straight in there! Silly little green plastic thing with a red "L" on the front and my mug shot. So now the world awaits! haha!
I've already spoken to mum about it and I'm getting everything out of the loft (violin, antiques, anything worth money!) and selling the lot and that jet black RAV4 will be mine!! Mine with red "L" plates on for now, but never the less ~MINE! I know Sammi will sit in with me and maybe Clare will on the beach or something, and probably Anita too at a push. I should have another 5 women to ask in a month's time the way I'm going anyway! lol. I'll get Hugh or whatever his name is on the phone when I come back and then it's "gentlemen start your engines!" Hugh used to work in Cheddar so it will be interesting to hear what he thinks of the whole sordid romance debarcle too...
Abi informed me that you can get provisional insurance, so that's all I need to know. I can drive anyway - I spent long enough driving old formula one cars on that game, and I'm sure modern Toyotas have better gearboxes and clutches than a 1973 Lotus! I did have a couple of months driving a 1984 Nissan Sunny up and down the A-Roads in Leicester in 1991, so hopefully it's all in my head somewhere. It's just road sense I need and awareness, so I will need to pay attention and be very consciencious with it. I need to swat up on the Highway Code too - must buy it from Smiths when I am in Stoke. The RAC website does a mock up of the theory test so I will do that to death when I get back as well.
I think dad had 9 lessons and then did his test, so I have to beat or equal that - maybe I might even drive by January, who knows, Easter at the very latest. I'm not worried about any of it apart from reversing because of being a short-arse. I'll need a cushion that's for sure! Alain Prost was only 5ft 4 or so and Rene Arnoux was 5ft 1, so if they can do it so can I!!
It will of course mean I can live anywhere and work anywhere! There's nothing that can stop me - I don't care what shit life throws at me, I will wipe it off and keep running! Christmas 2007 will be spent in a Welsh cottage, with a roaring fire, with my car parked outside, me lying on a comfy settee and having a glass of mulled wine! That's a promise. And my job will have paid for it all. Who knows if I will have company or not, probably the dog of course and anyone else who cares to join me, but despite the fact I said I wasn't going to go on any more dates I seem to be irresistable to women at the moment - since I put my profile up on that dating site I've had 742 women click on me! It's mad! They probably think I've always had a six-pack and a positive attitude to life - well I'll always have it from now on, so it makes no odds! I even find myself turning women down! Like I have a choice! hahah! Jayne is coming over when I come back from Stoke and she seems keen to stay in with a DVD and a bottle of wine. She wants to see Shrek, Peter Kay or A Knights Tale (what is it with that film!?) and even more of a worry she wants to "crash" overnight! Hope she doesn't grab my goolies! I haven't used them in ages and I don't even know if they still work! At least with all this fitness training I should be able to keep going for hours! lol - kidding! eek! No, I will be a gentleman of course and make up the bed for her and sleep on the sofa. I will even if she gets other ideas - I'll say I'm a born again Christian or something to put her off! Doesn't hurt the ego for women to be after you though does it!?

Good night dear diary - I must admit you are a very theraputic friend!
I will see you when I return - the man in black in the car in black! HEHEHE!!!

Someone sent me this....sound familiar?


Stealing a girlfriend from another guy.

If the girl you fancy has only been with her boyfriend a short time, then it will be difficult - it is better to try and get a girl who is in a long-term relationship as she may be getting bored, in which case you are in luck.
First and most important, tell the girl that you like her as a friend because she is "cool" - it must not be in a romantic way to start with or they will read your intentions.
On the first sign of her being unhappy with her current boyfriend then move in! If she complains about him then let her bitch - she will really appreciate having a male friend to talk to about him especially as she feels her boyfriend doesn't listen any more. Don't make any romantic move towards her at this stage, just "side" with her against her boyfriend, this will guarantee you will be the first person she will come to when she is having problems with him. And guess what - it will make her more hostile to her boyfriend! This is because you will be seen as the person she is close to and her boyfriend will seem like an obstacle to your friendship!
After a while you can even hug her in a friendly way, she will see it as a comfort and realise that she can get this from you but not her boyfriend. Remember to keep pushing the boundaries a little bit more each time to entice her still closer.
Once you have built it up enough then go for the kill! Make sure you are alone, make it dramatic, but also make it look spontaneous, like you can no longer hold your feelings in for this person! It will make it look like "destiny" and that it has come from nowhere at all, but it is just meant to be!
It helps to be shocked about the situation, like you have no idea where it came from (to hide the fact you have planned this all along) - lines like "I'm so sorry, I don't know why I said that, you just look amazing tonight and I had to say something..." Make it sound almost like the attraction is her fault, because you just could not resist her as she is such an amazing person and you never had any intention of it getting this far. It will make her think you have not planned any of this and she will believe you!
90% of girls will get upset and cry in this situation. It is not uncommon for them to look panic-stricken or alarmed. Often they will say "I didn't realise you liked me in that way" to which you MUST answer "I only just realised myself!"
I guarantee that in 99% of cases the girl will break up with her boyfriend within days. The seeds of doubt have been set and she "knows" that you are her friend and that "none of this was intended" so she will feel safe with you and only have rejection feelings towards her boyfriend.

And BINGO - you stole yourself a chick! It works more times than it fails guys! Give it a try!



Hmm. Interesting read - thanks a lot!! Sounds kind of familiar I must say.....
Sad enough that this kind of thing happens (I should know!) but the fact that some people make an art form out of it and celebrate the fact that long-term relationships can be trashed so easily is very sad and more than a little sordid. Women are senstive creatures and to use the feelings of friendship and emotional support in order to steal them is sick. Men are horrible - I'm coming back as a goat or a wasp or a penguin or something!